What great, and empowering, things have you done this month? May is almost over, we’ve just got a few brief days left to celebrate Memorial Day (link), and to make sure we’ve supported our mental health. We would be leaving a major point out if we closed out May without talking about mental health, families and relationships. Are you supported by your family? Do you have a healthy relationship or are you constantly giving and not receiving? Let’s talk about 3 points for each of us to follow to get started having healthier relationships at home.
Schedule: I’m a big fan of communicating schedules, plans and opportunities. First though, you have to have a plan and schedule for yourself! Do you actually take the time to write down your schedule, when you’ll be working/have commitments, when you’ll be with the kids, and when you’ll be with your partner? Don’t let those things slide or be put to the side, actually plan those times into your schedule so you know that you’re not letting a relationship take second place all the time. By sharing your schedule with the other members of the family, you all have the opportunity to communicate about your personal needs and to make sure that everyone has input in what happens day to day with the family.
Support: Believe it or not family is supposed to be where you feel the most supported, loved and cared for. If this isn’t the case, you and the other members of the family have a lot of work to do! It’s essential to create a supportive, nurturing, loving, caring environment for your kids to grow up in and a safe, open, intimate, growing relationship with your partner. If you all aren’t working together to support each other, it will be next to impossible to create a mentally healthy environment that supports your happiness, satisfaction and ability to do great things in the world.
Specific: Yes, you must be specific. Tell your partner what you want, tell your kids how much you love them, ask your kids to do specific tasks or not to do specific things, and be specific when you need those 10 minutes of you time so you don’t have a breakdown. Encourage your kids to be specific with you and tell you what they need from you, what makes them feel healthy and learn what you can do specifically to be a better mom or dad. The same goes for your partner, ask them what you can do to specifically grow your relationship, and support them, and make sure to listen and take action based on what they say.
This weekend set aside time to begin the conversation about how you can all help each other feel stronger and be healthier mentally. If you’ve already discussed being supportive, what is one thing you know you should be doing for your family but aren’t? Try doing that this weekend and see what a difference it makes.