On September 12, the day after the 10 year anniversary of 9/11/2001, it seems appropriate to talk about relationships. On that day many people lost their partners, friends, family or coworkers. Many people didn’t have the opportunity to be honest with the people in their lives and tell them they truly loved them or that they had hope for where their relationship would go in the future. Others were just waiting for the day they felt they could be honest with their family about who they really were and what they really wanted with their future. But they didn’t get that opportunity.
Why is it so important to be honest? Relationships that are built on authentic and honest truths are much stronger and more happy than those that are built on lies and unspoken truths.
Don’t let the fear of doing the right thing or saying the truth keep you from saying or doing it. It will be scary the first time you tell the truth, reveal what’s inside your heart and head, but it’s the best thing you can do. The truth will either help you construct or reconstruct that relationship or it will free both of you to be who you really are.
The truth is that people change! Most people are very different today than they were 5 years ago even. While you may not be able to change the other person, you have to accept that you’ve changed. Admitting to each other that you change and agreeing to work together to adapt to the changes is the first step. Take time this week to talk about who you are, where you are at and where you want to go.
If you’re approaching a change in your relationships and would like to talk about it, I’d love to listen. You can contact me on my website-it’s your future, what are you waiting for?