Trust in Families

This month’s theme is trust!  It’s a topic that’s a sore spot for many families and couples, yet it’s an important topic that through our conversations, tweets, posts and messaging I hope we’ll be able to rebuild.

“The chief lesson I have learned in a long life is that the only way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him; and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust him and show your distrust.” Henry L. Stimson

There’s a fine line between trusting your kids and your partner and not having rules, so if you’re looking to build trust, here are a few things to help you get started:

1. Consistency

2. Punctuality

3. Flexibility

4. Eye Contact

5. Discretion

6. Transparency

7. Competence

8. Face Time

Notice what most things here have to do with building trust?  They have to do with your time!  The more time you’re able to spend with someone (face time), the more to your word you are when you’re with them (punctuality), more you look at them (eye contact), and the more consistency your time together has (consistency), the more likely you’ll be to build trust.  This is especially true with intimate and family relationships.

Let’s start this month by being honest: what trust challenges do you have?  What don’t you trust your kids/partner/self with?  I invite you to share your trust tests below, because it will help you be more open to becoming more trusting and it may help someone else come to grips with their trust struggles.

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