This month we’ve been talking about freedom, it’s something that can be difficult to find, hard to accept and challenging to work with in relationships. But it’s something that’s really important for both you and your partner to work on. Recently I read this quote by Neale Donald Walsch:
“…love is sometimes shown in the things you don’t say, don’t keep track of, and don’t notice. The greatest kindness is often shown in letting things go. None of us is perfect, but we can all be perfect friends and perfect partners by allowing those that we love to be imperfect. Give those around you the “break” that you hope the world will give you on your own “bad day” and you’ll never, ever regret it.”
In relationships we’re all working on giving and receiving, and learning the roles that we each play in each other’s lives and in our own. It’s important to allow, and even encourage, freedom to be pursued, because a partnership, a relationship, is healthiest when you’re not completely depending on someone else for your happiness.
Each day is a new opportunity to learn more about each other, discover what the other likes and dislikes, and try to do a better job loving and supporting each other. It’s a chance, however scary, to let the other person be themselves, try new things and even have the occasional bad day.
I encourage you to sit down with your partner and discuss your relationship. Are you giving each other enough freedom? Too much freedom? Enough love and attention? Showing forgiveness? Giving each other credit when it’s due? What areas of your relationship do you need to work on most?