Did you know August is romance awareness month? I didn’t until I was looking for things to write about this month. I’ll be the first to agree that it’s hard to keep up the romance if you’ve got kids running around both your feet. What I don’t agree with is that this reason gives you an immediate and easy out for not doing the whole romance thing. While decades ago maybe people didn’t think and talk about romance as we do today, somehow they managed to keep their relationships together better than we do today. There are probably tons of reasons for their success, but rather than looking back, today we’re looking forward; as in what can you do to fix your romance and get your relationship in gear again.
Start by admitting where you have been slacking in your relationship, and asking your partner what they wish you two spent more time doing. This initial communication means that you know the romance hasn’t been up to the standards you wish it was. Neither of you should worry about excuses, valid or not, just focus on what you want and what’s missing. Then get some ideas going for ways to spice things up.
Try new things. I’m not suggesting that you go to risque clubs or do things that neither of you are comfortable with, but don’t always go to the same restaurant, watch the same shows or talk about the same things. Dream a little together, work a little together, put some effort into pleasing each other.
Write letters. No, you probably haven’t hand-written a letter in a really long time, but doing this can help you focus on your partner and show them how much they mean to you. If your hand writing is terrible, you can just write little post-its they can find around the house, or send them a romantic email (to their personal account, not the company one :)).
Make time. There’s nothing better than dedicating even 10 minutes each day to being with each other mentally and physically. While 10 minutes doesn’t give you much time for romance, it does give you the time to refocus and remind each other of your love. If you’ve got more than 10 minutes, all the better!
What do you do to keep the romance alive in your relationship?