If you’ve been following the news in the USA and around the world at all lately, there are many tumultuous situations going on. The US government shutdown, boats sinking, wars, people kidnapped, the list goes on. A little closer to home parents are heading in for parent-teacher conferences, seeing some of the early grades of the year and almost done with fall sports. At any time we’re under a lot of pressure from work, school, family, friends and relationship, not to mention the pressures we have no real control or influence over like the government or weather. Pressures like these not only affect you but they affect your kids as well. When you’re stressed out that stress easily transfers itself to your kids since they’re more sensitive. That’s not to say they should be sheltered from stress and pressure until they’re teens; they should be aware of stress and how to deal with it. Today I thought we’d review just a few thoughts on dealing with pressures and stress.
1-realize that sometimes it will be too much to handle. You don’t have to be picture perfect all the time. If people accepted that sooner we’d all be more able to be ourselves. Which would mean less pressure to be perfect, more understanding when things do get screwy and healthier relationships all around. When we accept that sometimes life will be too much we can let go of some of our fears around how we show up in the world and how others see us. We will screw up. It’s a fact. How we handle things as a result of the screw up says a lot about our character and who we are as people.
2-know you don’t have to handle it alone. I would never run for a political office, but if the people in government started talking and working together instead of trying to one-up the other person, I don’t think we’d be in this situation in the first place. No one person could rule the world, so why do we insist that we can handle everything all by ourselves? The second we turn to someone else for assistance we’re not giving up our power, but rather gaining more power than we could have by ourselves. We can’t always be right, nor can we do everything the best way possible all by ourselves.
3-communication is key to handling pressures effectively. While animals may be able to grunt and fight their problems out, most of the time that’s not going to help us find solutions to the pressures. Yes, we do need to get the physical emotions and feelings out and physical activity is a great way to do that. But the problem won’t be solved by a 10 mile run or fist fight. Nor will a screaming match do anyone any good. When you sit down and truly discuss the situation and possible next steps instead of yelling or just giving up you’re choosing to create a better future.
These 3 keys will not only help you better deal with stress, they’ll give you the tools to help your kids deal with and learn from your stress as well. Kids will always be affected by our stress, but they don’t have to be traumatized by it. What do you do that helps you handle pressures and stress?