“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
A. A. Milne
To celebrate Milne’s birth I thought we’d hear a bit of his wisdom, and although it’s not Pooh wisdom, it’s something to learn from all the same. It’s unfortunate that we don’t build relationships often in which we feel this way. I know many people go into relationships hoping for a few good years, and maybe some kids. But how many of us go into a relationship hoping we can stay with them until we die? In some ways it’s understandable since we are in a period of time with such change and little permanence. We see jobs come and go, money flow in and out, technology and society change quickly, just to name a few.
But when it comes down to it that’s a piss-poor way to live.
I know that life is temporary and we need to live each day to the fullest. But that doesn’t mean that we can’t have long, satisfying relationships. In fact, we seem to spend more time ruining relationships than truly trying to make them work. So it’s no wonder that our relationships don’t last. Not everyone divorces but there’s certainly a serious lack of life and passion after being together for a long time, mostly because they haven’t been proactive about cultivating a relationship like Milne speaks of.
But it’s something you can change if you choose to. You can try new things, go on dates, find more things to enjoy together, see a counselor or coach to work out your issues so you can get back to loving, and choose to let go of all the baggage you’ve carried that has come between you.
This week I encourage you to see each day as one of those days leading up to that 100 years and make it a great one. It won’t be perfect, but if you put a little effort into it it can be a lot better than all the previous days you regret. What will you do to make today a good day?