If you’re a sports fan there’s a good chance you’re thinking about the upcoming Superbowl. You may not have a team in (I’m a Saints fan), but chances are you’re still interested in the outcome (go Seattle!), or at least watching the game to hang out with friends. As I was thinking about it I was reminded that there’s been lots of losers so far and there will be one more. There can only be one winner. The concept of winning and losing is one we have to deal with from a young age. What do we do with the disappointments and victories our kids experience? How do we explain the concept of something that is a game but so much more?
1-you can’t win everything. Even if you’re born with a silver spoon in your mouth the chances of you not getting everything you want are pretty good. Not everything has a price and can be attained. Put the most effort into the battles you really want to fight.
2-you can improve your chances for success. There are tons of books you can read, courses you can take, people you can talk with, work you can do, all to improve and increase your chances of success. Best of all, you don’t have to parent your kids through their struggles alone! You can’t change everything, but you can always find a way to gain an edge if you are willing to make the effort.
3-failure isn’t permanent. This is one of the most important things to communicate to your kids; it’s important for them to realize that when they get beaten they can’t stay down, they have to come back again. No, they don’t have to win the Superbowl next year if they lost this year, they can go on to win at other things; things that may end up mattering to them more than one night of success.
It all comes down to seeing the bigger perspective. Each and every experience we have we can learn from. Don’t restrict your lessons or successes, keep an open mind and be willing to move on.