Life is all about choices. It’s all about how we get up in the morning, how we approach the day, what we think about our job, how we treat our family, what we do with our free time and how we’re planning our future. Some of us can make good choices without thinking about it. Others of us seem to always end up on the wrong side of the tracks. Since we were born we’ve been making choices, but those choices have been shaped by our experiences and by what those in our lives have said and taught us. Some of us have learned good money habits from our parents, others of us don’t want to ever get married or have kids because of our parents. During those formative childhood years we pick up on so much, stuff that we may not even realize until we’re much older. Stuff that has deep and lasting impact on our lives and decisions. Much of that has to do with the people who have shaped us.
If what you experienced as a child taught you that life is a struggle you’ll either decide to do something better with your life and make it happen, or you’ll stick with the “life is a struggle” mindset and stay stuck in poverty and bad experiences. If other people have treated you like dirt and emphasized how worthless they think you are, one day you’ll either believe it or prove them wrong. What these people have taught you will directly reflect on how you treat and interact with others. At some point in time in your life you chose to give the people the power or take the power for yourself.
When you made the decision to take or release your power you set yourself up for success or failure. The moment you chose to be a stick in the mud and hold things against people or release the belief in your limitless value you chose to keep things as they were or let them get worse. If, however, you chose to not let the comments of people who would rather hurt you than help you, or the people who didn’t truly care about you find their own fate rather than aligning with them, you chose to succeed.
The good news is that if you didn’t like the choice you made earlier in your life, you can make that change today.
“I suggest taking the high road and have a little sense of humor and let things roll off your back. I think that’s very important.” Sallie Ride