There comes a time that we have to make the decision if we’re the person we want to be and if not what we’re going to do about it. Maybe you’re there. Maybe you are tired of the life you have. Maybe you like your life but you want more. Maybe things have never seemed right for you. Maybe you’re tired of being reminded about and dragged through your past. Whatever the reason you’ve reached this point you’re wondering how you got here and how soon you can get to where you want to be. This is actually a good thing, because rather than fighting (or continuing to fight) the feelings you’re ready to make changes in your life. When you’ve reached this point you’re open to what it will take to change your life to make it a life you’re happy with. Maybe it will be easy and maybe it won’t, but you won’t know until you get going.
Often we get stuck in what we know the past to be. Why? Because it’s familiar and we know how it works; there are few surprises. Of course it probably won’t get much better than it is. So we’re stuck with the familiar and what we have until we just can’t take it anymore. Sometimes little doubts and lies sneak into our brains and we wonder if this is really all there is and it will just be too much work to separate from our past or get to the future we desire.
What I do know is that your past isn’t an indication or indicator of what your future has to be. Your future will be what you make of it. If you don’t change things they will remain as they are. If you make bad choices things will probably go poorly. If you make good choices you’ll end up close to, where or better than where you wanted to be. Yes, it will take some work to get past the past and heading to your future, but very little that is really worth it is effortless.
“A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with – a man is what he makes of himself.” Alexander Graham Bell