Many of us spend a lot of time thinking about ourselves. This isn’t a bad thing unless we’re the only thing we think about and if we’re not considerate of the impact that our thoughts, purchases and actions could have on someone else. Because from where I sit I can see at least 11 people who would be impacted if I stood up and yelled something loud and obnoxious (I’m working at Starbucks today). Whether you believe in karma or not, it’s pretty simple to prove that your actions and words do have an impact on those around you.
But back to my original point: it’s not a bad thing to spend time thinking about yourself. If we were completely selfless we’d make some decisions that would be really unhealthy for us or could hurt us, which could actually end up hurting others, especially if we’re depended on by kids. Refusing to have an opinion or take care of yourself is a mistake, but so is being so focused on yourself that you ignore the needs of others. It’s also a mistake to be so focused on the karma aspect of things that you don’t leave room for being OK with failures or unexpected blessings.
Taking the time to do something nice for someone else, to be honest with them about something or make a decision based on the negative impact of one option over the other are things that show that you’re both responsible and respectful. Living life as a points system or creating lots of “IOU’s” and “you owe me’s” shouldn’t be your goal. It should be your goal to be considerate of the needs of others as well as your own. After all, the well known statement is “together we can change the world.”
The truth is that you may not be repaid by the same person for your kind or inconsiderate actions, but in one way or another you will be repaid for being selfish, inconsiderate, kind or thoughtful. It comes down to whether or not you want to be repaid with kindness down the road, or end up in the mud.
“Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” Princess Diana