How many couples do you know that greet each other with criticisms or lists of things they did or didn’t do and are in trouble for? There’s no “how was your day?” “I’m glad to see you” hugs, kisses or other welcoming greetings. It’s one of the many reasons, I’m sure, dogs are considered our best friend (just kidding). And maybe that sounds an awful lot like your household. Maybe you and your partner spend a lot of time sniping at each other and at each other’s throats.
If that is your relationship I hope you take serious consideration of why you’re in it and that the reasons you come up with are very good. Because I don’t know about you but that’s not the kind of relationship I want. No, you don’t have to rush the door every time they come home, but to not kindly greet someone you love, or even just greet them means you’re probably not happy to see them. And if you’re not happy to see them why are you in the relationship?
I’ve gone in a circle here but it brings us back to the same two questions: are you happy in your relationship and if not what are you going to do about it? If you really think you could be happy in your relationship, you have to ask yourself what needs to change, and specifically what you need to do differently. You can’t heap all of the blame on your partner, you need to take your own portion as well because while your partner is a part of your happiness, ultimately only you are responsible for it.
I think it starts with greeting each other. If you greet each other with a smile it reminds both of you that you’ve chosen to be in that relationship and are happy to see the other person, despite whatever issues you need to deal with that day. I believe that there is always room for love and a smile, that life is better when you start with that foundation. When you’ve got the love you can deal with anything that comes your way. But when the love isn’t supported or encouraged and you’re just a laundry list of things to do much of the magic that that love brings is gone.
“Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.” Mother Teresa