When life seems to send you more lemons than anything else you’ve got a couple of choices to make: you can choose to complain, you can choose to change, you can choose to let go, or you can choose to make lemonade. Each of these are important and have their place as part of the challenges in our lives.
I think it is a nod to our human nature that we’re upset when things aren’t going well. We like it when things work, when they’re successful and when they’re doing good in the world. We don’t like it when things go wrong or aren’t as successful as we hoped. It’s actually healthy to take time to mourn and accept the failure. If it wasn’t healthy we wouldn’t have tons of research done on the stages of grief, but we do.
But the upset and grief can only last for so long. At some point in time in the near future it has to change to action based on the challenge, which means you need to let it go, change things or just go with it and make the best of it even if it wasn’t your original plan, and sometimes you’ll have to do a combination or all of those.
But the key to dealing with the lemons of life is actually in the lemonade: it has to be made. Lemons don’t just turn themselves into lemonade, you have to give them a helping hand. Whether you were the cause of the lemons or just the unfortunate beneficiary, it’s up to you to deal with them. If you’re lucky, it’s actually a good thing you were given lemons, because you’ve been waiting for something to change or for a push to get you out of your current situation and on your way, and here it conveniently is. What will you do with the lemons life sends you?
“When you’re in a situation, you can complain about it, you can feel sorry for yourself, you can do a lot of things. But how are you gonna make the situation better?” Tony Dungy