Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and a good portion of the population of the US is thinking romance. Maybe it feels like an obligation to them, maybe they’re pissed they don’t have a date, maybe they’ve recently had their heart broken, maybe they’re tired of putting in effort and getting nothing back, and maybe you can identify with those people in one way or another. I’m thankful to be in a happy relationship, but not everyone is so fortunate. So today I want to issue you a challenge and possibly help you make this Valentine’s Day the best ever.
Let’s start with those not in a relationship. Being bitter, pissed off, angry or stewing in hurt will never get you into a happy relationship. Ever. No one wants to be partnered with a grump. You may not usually be a grump, but if that’s how someone acts when you meet you, so why would they think you’d be different because you’re in a relationship? Take the time you have to enjoy life, even if you don’t have a permanent someone to spend it with.
For those of us in relationships I challenge you to do the unexpected. Going with the flowers and dinner (unless that’s what your partner really likes) is a cop-out. What if instead of doing what tradition dictates you do you what would make your partner most happy? The secret to having a great Valentine’s Day and a strong relationship is in being able to give your partner what they want and need (within reason of course). Maybe what would make your partner happiest would be a quiet night alone with you with the kids at the Grandparents or a friends? What if it would make your partner happiest if you actually did some of the things they’ve been asking/complaining about? What if instead of reaching for the simple thing, you reached for what will make your relationship exciting and thrive?
Your relationship, your life, your Valentine’s Day is what you make of it. Go big, don’t just go home.
“We only have what we give.” Isabelle Allende