How does success happen? It doesn’t happen because we’ve experienced loss or failure, or because someone told us we couldn’t do it, although those things can motivate us to become successful. Success happens because we take action, action that will help us accomplish our goals or dreams. This month we’ve talked about lessons and what we can learn from the things that go on in our lives and in the lives of those around us. One of the most painful, but often the most empowering, lessons is that of loss, failure or judgment. When we face loss, failure or judgment we’re forced to make a decision: will we let it damage us, or will we let it teach and improve us?
I don’t know about you but I have friends who were told in high school that they would amount to very little. It’s not easy to overcome that negative and self-esteem-killer talk. It’s amazing how powerful simple little words can be! The old saying may be that “Sticks and stones will break my bones/But words will never harm me,” but it’s not really true: our words have incredible power, more so than ever with all of the technology that we have in 2015. We’ve seen the power in just 140 characters to ruin people and business’s lives, so it’s not that difficult to see how powerful (and damaging) our words can be. But when words are used to empower the result can be nothing short of world-transforming.
When we put actions behind our words, actions that are based on what we learned from our words and the words of others we face a choice: will we take actions that will hinder us or will we choose words that will allow us to grow and succeed? I don’t know about you but I’d much rather choose things that will make me grow, because it’s only when we grow that is there a possibility of things becoming better than they are. If you want things in your life to change, the answer is not to curl up into a little ball and cry. It’s to let go of what holds you back and grow. What steps will you take this week to grow your life?
“I don’t mind sacrifice. I don’t mind discipline. But a good coach allows people to blossom. I’ve seen that. I didn’t have it.” Dominique Moceanu