Last week I talked about some things that kids think about parents or adults. We learn many things from our parents, that’s their role: to teach us and help us grow into people capable of taking on the world. Yes, the world has changed since they were kids so their childhood experiences may not totally line up with ours, but many of the concepts and lessons are still applicable and need to be learned now more than ever. One of the things that kids today need to be taught is about what to do with failures. You will fail or someone will fail you sooner rather than later. So what can we teach our kids and maybe learn ourselves?
Failure will happen. It’s part of the learning experience that is life. In one way or another you’ll fail or let someone down somehow. Once you’ve done that you have to figure out where to go from there. You can of course ignore the failure and hope it goes away or doesn’t get caught. It’s something we all try at least once because it’s not really pleasant to realize you’ve made a mistake or admit to it. You can also choose to live less life and not try new things because of it. Or you can learn from it and be prepared so you hopefully don’t make the same mistake again.
If we choose to live less life because of our failures and mistakes we’re letting fear win. When fear wins the world stays flat, doesn’t fly, can’t take pictures, and can’t cure cancer. Yet today because some people chose to overcome their fears, we know those things aren’t true.
So as adults our best bet is to face our fears and failures and keep living anyway. Not to ignore the failures or not apologize when necessary, but to choose to do better next time because we can.
“I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.” Thomas Paine