Fears are really good at one thing: stopping you from doing things. We’ve talked about the positive side of fears where they help stop us from doing really stupid things that could get us killed, or helping to remind us how badly things went the last time we tried something. But the truth is that most of the time fears hold us back from living life. It’s really hard, almost impossible, to thrive when you’re constantly being blocked by fears.
There’s a lot of talk and research as well into animals knowing how we’re feeling. If we show fear, hatred or dislike to them they know we feel that way about them and respond in one way, but if we show no fear or show that we’re interested in them or like them they respond completely differently.
Fears are kind of like this because if we’re focused on our fears and being scared or intimidated by them we’ll feel like they’re popping up in all kinds of crazy ways to stop us and hinder our progress at the least convenient times all the time. It’s kind of like how when you’re thinking about buying a new blue Ford Focus it seems like you see it everywhere. It’s a principle of awareness: what you’re thinking about, meditating on or focused on will be your reality. So if we want a different reality, yes, we have to think on different things!
If you want to stop being hindered by your fears you need to focus less on the obstacles that the fears can and do put in your path and more on the things you actually want, what is going right in your life, what you’re confident in and taking steps to overcome them.
“Obstacles are like wild animals. They are cowards but they will bluff you if they can. If they see you are afraid of them… they are liable to spring upon you; but if you look them squarely in the eye, they will slink out of sight.” Orison Swett Marden