We each have different things that scare us, some people will be scared of heights but others absolutely love reaching them, just like some people spend all day with live snakes and spiders and others just kill them on sight. Sometimes our fears can make us look or feel silly. We don’t usually want to be afraid of what we’re scared of, it just happens. For most of us one of our biggest fears is being told by other people that your fears or the fears that your kids have are silly. It’s important to know that their thoughts about your fears or the fears your kids have shouldn’t be your concern: the fear itself should be.
Fears aren’t about right and wrong, often fears are irrational, even silly sounding, but that doesn’t make them any less real or make us any less embarrassed by them when others find out about them. This is one reason that many of us hold back on getting the help we need to deal with our fears. Instead we let the fears just simmer and exist in our minds and lives until they wreak havoc on our lives and the lives of our kids.
Don’t ignore your kids when they tell you they’re scared, and don’t tell them or let anyone tell you that fears are irrational or wrong because as long as life remains the way it is we’ll have to deal with fears that seem very real to us. Don’t let other people tell you or your kids what’s right or wrong when it comes to fears, just try to be understanding and deal with the darkness in the fears and shine light on them.
“Who is more foolish, the child afraid of the dark or the man afraid of the light?” Maurice Freehill