There’s a lot that goes on in a home behind closed doors. We always seem amazed when stories of children who were taken show up years later having been prisoner in a small town for those missing years, yet the stories keep showing up in the news. Fortunately they don’t show up too often. More often than not we hear about families who are gifts to the community, those who love the neighborhood kids, lead the sports teams, attend community events and help out in the schools.
Family is as complicated as it has always been though. Some times we’re thrilled to be with family and have their support, other times we shy away because they aren’t pleased with our decisions (even if they’re not “bad” decisions). We don’t get a choice in our biological family but have been given a gift with the opportunity to create our own family with a partner and kids if we choose to have or adopt them, and even friends can become closer than biological family members. Part of the reason family is so complicated is because they know us so well, part is because they think because they’re older/more experienced/more knowledgeable about things, part is because we have this innate desire to please them, part is because they only think they know us, part is because they want what they think is the best for us and the list could go on. Needless to say, family is complicated, and we add our own quirks to that complication.
But when it comes down to it family should be simple. Family should be the place we feel safest, the people we turn to and those who turn to us. It should be a place of hope, growth, challenge, comfort and relaxation. No, not all moments will be good, but you should never feel upset or anxious about going home. It’s my hope and prayer that each of our homes would live following this proverb:
“May this home be a place of happiness, health, creativity, kindness and love. May all who visit and live here know only blessings and peace.”