Life has been a little crazy these past few weeks and my work schedule has definitly taken some hits. How do you deal with it when life gets crazy? You know, when your kids get sick the morning of a big presentation, or they have this big project you knew nothing about that’s due at the end of the week, or when your partner suddenly has a trip to take for work and leaves you with things you were going to do together. Basically: life. And heaven forbid if you have something going on in your life too on top of what goes on with your family like being sick or extended family stuff, right?!
I was reading an article the other day about how a family vacation almost never is a real “vacation” where people relax and rejuvenate, it’s only when couples go alone or people go alone that it is a real vacation. I think family vacations are very important and some of my best memories of growing up are of family vacations. But I also remember the times when we were dropped off at my grandparents for a week and my parents had some alone time, even if they were just at home without us. We all enjoyed those times too.
A big part of life is learning to navigate the lumps and bumps, the relationships, the interpersonal differences, the questions of kids and all the unpredictables and unknowns we can’t anticipate. If you can’t learn how to deal with it or manage it, it will manage you and sooner or later you’ll look around and wonder where your life has gotten to without you. With school winding down and summer coming up soon you’re probably thinking about time off, whether you have kids or not. Take time to be alone this summer. Set up time each day that you have a few minutes alone, and if possible get your kids to do the same. Maybe they’re too old for naps but that doesn’t mean that can’t read for 30 minutes or an hour or do a puzzle or color or another quiet activity, and give you some time alone. Don’t feel bad or like a failure for needing alone time and making time to be alone, it’s healthy to be with people as well as to have time for yourself.