One of the biggest keys to health are the people in your life. Those people will make or break the healthy habits you’re trying to create. And even if they don’t purposely try to hinder you in creating those habits, they can inadvertently do things that will make it harder for you. Let’s say you’re all going out to eat. No, they don’t have to pick a restaurant everyone can eat at when you all go out, although it’s the polite thing to do, but with the way that we typically rotate who has the final say or who comes up with ideas so that we’re not completely bored and going to the same places all the time, it’s likely that someone will be unhappy or not thrilled with the selection each time. If we’re truly considerate people, if we truly care about the people that we’re with, we will make a real effort to compromise.
The person you choose to be your romantic partner is usually more influential than your friends, coworkers and other acquaintances. So getting into a committed relationship with someone that you don’t think has good habits, isn’t considerate of your needs, doesn’t prioritize alone time for you two, doesn’t make you happy, and you don’t enjoy making them happy, is probably not a good idea. I’m not necessarily talking about finding THE right person, as in there’s only one right person for each of us, but I am talking about finding someone that respects and supports you, your needs and desires and you can respect and support them and theirs.
A toxic relationship of any kind can have long lasting damage on you, your health and your life. It can take years to get over the physical or psychological damage that has been done to you or happened as a result of the relationship, and not all of it is their fault. My intention with writing this post isn’t to scare you that all your relationships are bad and you should only be friends with certain kinds of people (after all we all have a couple of bad days). Instead I encourage you to be and work on becoming the person that it’s worth being in a relationship with. Don’t be the person that others regret hanging out with or avoid. It’s not about being the center of attention or the person that everyone wants to be. It’s about knowing that you did the best you could with your life, you treated others right and because you made choices that you felt supported you, you can someday die happy.