Today I want to talk about a very Halloween topic: fear. In all areas of our lives at one point in time or another we’ll probably experience fear. We experience fear when we let our kids go out into the world with new activities (trick-or-treating with other families and not ours), we experience fear when they’re better at things than us (catching Pokemon), we experience fear when our mind gets the best of us (how long our partner is spending at work), and we experience fear when it comes to who we are (am I good enough?). Maybe you don’t have to deal with a lot of fear in your life because you’re super confident or conquer (smash) your fears really quickly. Or maybe you’re one of those people who are paralyzed by fear and struggle with it for a long time before being able to even contemplate moving on or next steps. Some wisdom I read recently has a great insight that not only will help us with our fears but also strengthening our families in general.
“The more we love, the less we fear; the less we fear, the more we love. Sometimes we can address our fears head on and simply dismiss them—or at least manage them. Sometimes love can overwhelm our fear. Sometimes doing some completely gratuitous act of loving-kindness will break through the sclerotic accretions of fear and the fountain begins to flow again.” Br. Mark Brown
That’s right: love. I can’t say I’ll be trying love on any of those movie monsters in the near future, but I do know that applying more love to life will help me reduce any fears I have and conquer them quicker and in better form. There isn’t anything that can make your life, family or relationship perfect. But there are things that you can do to make them better and healthier, and one of them is love. If you’ve established a foundation of love within your family and between your partner and you it’s much easier to begin the tough conversations, realize that some of your are baseless, and find the courage and strength to get over the fears that do have foundation.
I believe we can all use more love in our lives, how will you love more this week?