You probably know that I’m a big reader. I love fiction as well as non-fiction and kids books too. In November one of the days that are celebrated is Chicken Soup for the Soul day. While it isn’t as talked about now as it was years ago, you’re probably familiar with the book series that swept the nation and the world, but to refresh, each book is filled with inspirational true stories about ordinary people’s lives. What I love most about the book series is that they’re a reminder that the world and our past, present and future are made up of individuals with stories. So often we hear about events or dates or places and it may not mean a whole lot to you, for example November 14, 1440, do you know what happened that day? Probably not, which means that the date doesn’t mean much to you. It’s one reason many people don’t like history or learning because they aren’t able to find a personal connection to what they’re supposed to be learning. But when you add a face and a story to what seemed like a random date, event or place all of a sudden it becomes a lot more real and interesting.
Friday in the US was Veteran’s Day, the day that we take time to honor and remember the men and women who have put their lives on the line in one way or another for our country. It’s not always easy to talk with kids about topics like war, fighting and dying. We want to protect them from the reality that we worry about, but in countries around the world kids of their age are right in the middle of war zones and don’t know if they will see tomorrow. That said with all of the devices and access to the internet that kids have today it’s a lot harder to hide the truth from them, and sometimes you have to ask if it’s really the right thing to do. No, I don’t think kids should be exposed to the details of the horrors and hurtful things that people do to each other, but I do think they need to know that there is hurt in the world and they have to decide if they’re going to add to it or do something to change it.
But the point of today’s post is to not only thank the Veterans, but to give you an idea of how to talk with your kids about the men and women who face such horrors, especially if they’re killed in war and the kids never had a chance to know them. Each and every Veteran has a story, they’ve got a life before they went to war, they have a family they left, and veterans have a life after the war. Yes, the war changed them; you can’t see what they’ve seen and not be changed. While most Veterans aren’t comfortable talking about what went on during their time in war, there are stories they are willing to share about their life or the war that aren’t about the horrors they saw. Maybe they’ve got some crazy ship and travel stories, maybe they had some of the best food of their life from crazy little shacks in tiny towns that no one really knows exist, maybe they played cards with people from a bunch of other countries every night for months, or maybe they have stories about their lives before the war that they can share. War can take a lot from our Veterans, but we can give them something back by asking for and sharing their stories, whether they’re stories of heroism, crazy drunk activities or sweet family moments, and reminding the rest of the country and the world that Veterans are people just like you and me whose life and choices have taken them down a very difficult path.
So this month as you think about Thanksgiving coming up, I encourage you to find some way to give back to the Veterans in your life and community. Maybe you can invite a military family over for Thanksgiving. Maybe you can donate a meal to a Veteran’s organization in your area. Maybe you can give a military family in your area a gift of service from your business. Or maybe you will just sit and listen to the stories they have gathered through their life and pass them on to future generations so they and their sacrifice aren’t forgotten.