As we start this new year with our families I thought today we’d talk about what the goal is for most families: a happy, safe home. I know that’s not how it always works out and I know that there are many reasons for that. The world isn’t perfect, and we’re each very capable of making mistakes, I know I do. Sometimes we make mistakes or lash out because we’re tired or hurt or upset or because someone says something that pushes our buttons, and other times there’s not really a good reason, it just happens.
Families are supposed to be close units, that’s been the intention since they were created. I think it works well at least in theory because having people that are very close to you in both a physical and relational sense of the word means that you’ve got people who know you, accept you and you can depend on. The place you call home and the people you call family are supposed to be a safety net and something you look forward to at the end of the day. I know that’s not always the reality. I know that some of us live in less than ideal home situations, but there are very few reasons that, if we all work together, we can’t improve those situations.
Yes, that does mean that everyone would have to want to change in order for there to be an improvement. I know that there are some people who are happy being miserable, but that’s certainly not the way I want to live, and I don’t think you do either. If your family is struggling to work together or isn’t working together the first thing to do is talk with everyone about whether or not they want things to improve. If they don’t then you should just work on improving yourself to the best of your ability and making whatever changes and updates you can without causing too much (more) friction. If they’re open to making the situation a better one for everyone, make a plan for steps you can all take to a better family and home. The new year is a great time to resolve and take action on working towards the family and home life you want.
“May this home be a place of happiness, health, creativity, kindness and love. May all who visit and live here know only blessings and peace.”