It must be February: my email inbox is filled with talk of love and relationships! The thing is, this year a lot of the posts and emails have been really great. Usually it seems like it’s all the same stuff or it’s the standard Valentine fare, but this year it seems that people are really diving deep and wide into the love conversation, which has led to some very interesting reading. It may seem like a tired topic, love and relationships, but the simple fact is that our lives are all about relationships, and that more often than not whether we’re having a good day or not depends on our romantic relationship.
I don’t know about you but I’m interested in getting more out of my romantic relationship. My partner and I have a great relationship and of course we have our challenges and issues, but overall it’s a very peaceful, fulfilling and loving relationship. We’ve been together for years and I’m still excited when I get to see him each day. I know that’s not the case for many couples and I know there can be many reasons for that unhappiness. If you want to get more out of your relationship you have to put in more, have a different attitude about your relationship and each other, and/or do something different than you’ve always done.
Every relationship does go through changes. There are learning opportunities every day about how your relationship works and to learn things you never knew about each other. There are countless resources available, often at your fingertips, that can help you work through some of the challenges or just get more out of an already decent relationship. But ultimately it comes down to whether or not you’re happy with who you are as a person when your partner is with you, who they are when they’re with you, who they are when they’re not with you, and what your relationship has created and is creating in your life.
So today I encourage you to ask yourself this question: if I had to do it all over again would I choose my same partner again? If the answer is yes, I encourage you to put in the extra effort in the coming days and weeks to rebuild your relationship if necessary or grow it from where it is. If the answer is no then you need to evaluate what’s not working for you and sit down and have a discussion with them about what you’re feeling and struggling with.