Love is a powerful emotion. Emotion might even be too weak a word to use to describe what love is, because love is more than feeling happy, or sad; love lasts, endures and exists through those times of highs and lows. Love makes our happiness conditional on the other person’s happiness. Simply, love means we want those we love happy, and if they’re not happy we’re not either. This is one area where all of the technological advancements of the past few decades have really made a big impact: it’s even easier to spread the love around even when we can’t be that physical shoulder to cry on. You can send love through a Facebook or email message, a quick tweet or text, or send it over as a big photograph.
One of the greatest abilities love has is the ability to tear down barriers of loneliness and separation. The only reason distance relationships work ever is because the love in that relationship is powerful and well developed. Love doesn’t consider our differences, it just sees people and hearts. Love isn’t concerned with politics or culture, it just wants to break down walls. When we let love in it can do powerful things in our lives and in the lives of those connected with us.
However, it’s not just about being loved, it’s about loving too. It’s one reason people who suffer from depression are told to get pets or do community service or spend time with kids: you feel better when you’re spreading love and helping others. But just like many other things in our lives, love is a choice. It’s a choice we have to make on a daily (or hourly) basis. It’s a choice no one can make for us, and one we can’t make for them. If you don’t want to feel alone, do something about it! Choose to accept the love that is all around you and make it part of your life.
“It is astonishing how little one feels alone when one loves.” John Bulwer