This month one of the things we’re talking about is having fun, and of course today in the US we’ve got Mother’s Day. Some of us don’t think about Moms being fun, they just try to ruin our fun, right?! And if you’re a mom you may be having difficulty trying to remember the last time you had fun, or the last time you had some adult fun. Whenever a kid is brought into the world it’s someone’s responsibility to care for them, whether it’s their biological mom and/or dad or a family member or an adopted family. You know I’m a supporter of having a village raise a child and not just depending on the human or humans who brought that child into the world. One of the reasons is that it’s more fun for the child when they get to interact with other children of the “village,” but it also gives the parents a chance to be parents and have adult friends and get a time-out from being a parent on occasion.
If you’re a mom and it’s been a long time since you’ve had fun I want to encourage you to start making that a part of your life. Maybe that means drinks (coffee/tea or alcohol) with the girls once a month. Maybe that means reinstating the weekly date with your partner. Maybe that means hiring a sitter to give you a couple of hours off each week so you can shower alone, shave your legs or do food shopping without “helpful” second opinions. Maybe it means watching another family’s kids for a few hours and they watching yours on another day so even more moms get a few hours off. Maybe it means being more creative and getting the kids involved in your preferred hobbies and interests like gardening, painting, garage sale shopping or car repair.
If you’re feeling guilty for wanting a little fun, let’s get some perspective. First, everyone needs to have fun and take a break from the challenges, disappointments, hurts and frustrations that come through our lives. Second, if all your kids see you doing is stressing out and being unhappy, what do you think they’ll think about life? I wouldn’t want to grow up if all it meant was that I’d be miserable and unhappy. Yes, you need to teach them responsibility and how to care for themselves, but I believe that part of that is learning proper stress relief and that it’s OK to have fun as part of your life all life-long. What fun will you have this week?