Yesterday here in the US we took the time to honor and remember the moms in our lives. As I was thinking about Mothers Day, it got me thinking about the other holidays throughout the year, and I realized that many of them help us do something important: recognize the people in our lives. Valentine’s Day is about you and your significant other, Mother’s Day is about mom, Memorial Day is about remembering those who have died while fighting for our country, Father’s Day is about Dad, the Fourth of July is about remembering the people who founded our country, Labor Day is about honoring the people who work hard around the country to keep us going, Veteran’s Day is about honoring our veterans, and Thanksgiving is about being thankful for the people in our lives.
I’ve shared many times about the importance of communication to our lives and our successes, but as I was thinking about Mother’s Day this weekend I was reminded that it’s not just about the communication, it’s about the people we’re communicating with as well. I received an email from someone the other day asking for advice about increasing the sales in their business and I gave them some advice, but either they didn’t like the advice or something because they replied back “yes, but how can I make more sales?” What did I tell them? I told them to fix the spelling and grammar mistakes in their listings (and there were many). It’s one thing to say you want help, but another when you don’t do something with that help when it shows up.
Typically, the only way for someone to change or transform their life is if they want to, they won’t usually do it if you tell them to change and they’re not interested in changing (something couples and families struggle with). And think about the last time you were with someone who you just can’t stand, what did you do after you were with them? Probably complained about them to someone else, just like you do every time you interact with them. With over 7 billion people in the world, there’s really very little reason to spend time with people who treat you disrespectfully, you don’t like or doesn’t like you. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t work on fixing relationships or making a relationship last, because you absolutely should for those relationships that matter the most like with your kid’s other parent or your family. Just that life’s too short to spend much time on or spend it with people who aren’t on the same page as you. Choose your clients, coworkers, bosses, and friends wisely, every day is a gift, and it’s up to you how you spend that gift.