You’re probably familiar with the concept of “rubbing it in.” This is when we poke, prod, remind and joke over something someone else did and we either witnessed it or were told about it. If you think back to the last time someone rubbed your mistake, miscalculation, failure, poor guess or their success in your face you’ll probably remember that it didn’t feel so great. And when it happens again and again, it feels even worse.
It’s important to celebrate our success with each other. It’s also important to gently (or not so gently if the situation calls for it) correct someone. We learn from our successes and our failures. But we don’t learn anything except that we don’t like certain people when they start rubbing things in our face, especially repeatedly.
When someone screws up or makes a funny yes, it’s great to laugh along and see the humor in the situation. It’s not OK to bring it up 3, 6, 9, 12 months later and be like “remember that time you really screwed up?!” even if they’ve come a long way since then.
It’s good to have a little humor at life’s mistakes. Have a laugh, learn your lesson and move on to applying it. Don’t drag anyone through the mud, they’re probably already kicking themselves anyway.
“…it is nice to let someone who admits an error feel better after doing so…not feel worse.” Neale Donald Walsch