I think that the advances in communication have done some great things for our relationships. We’re able to send a short text or email anywhere at any time to our significant other and let them know we’re thinking of them or tell them what we love about them. We can also keep in touch with them and have great, long conversations while we’re on the road to and from work or if we have to travel for work. In some ways the improved communications make up for the changes in our lives that separate us as we weren’t before, since most people worked where they lived and didn’t do a lot of traveling.
However I’ve noticed a decrease in people taking time for date nights, or dates of any kind day or night. In some ways I can understand because my partner and I both work nights and often holidays as well (which means our dates are day dates). I also understand that many people are tired at the end of the day since just about all adults work now (there are fewer stay at home parents), and by the end of the day you just want a quiet evening with the kids (or by yourself with your pillow).
But just like we’ve lost much of the imagination and sense of adventure we had when we were children, in some ways I think the busyness and responsibilities we’ve taken on as adults have pushed aside our dedication to our significant others. It’s not that we take them for granted necessarily, just that we don’t invest in our relationships the same way that we used to. With all the other priorities we have (including financial and family) our relationship seems to be the one priority that we let go or put towards the bottom of the list, a fact that’s supported by all the divorces in our society.
So what if we make one small change, that we commit time alone and in person with our significant other each week, or at the very least each month. If you’re really serious about this person that you’ve committed your life to, and may have kids with and therefore would see for the rest of your life, it would serve both of you to dedicate even just a couple of hours a week to your relationship whether having a meal, taking a walk, going to a museum or doing some other activity that enables you to have quality time together. What fun out-of-the-house time will you plan with your significant other this week?