This week has been one for the books. I’ve seen lots of examples of love, and I’m so thankful. It seems like the world has really stepped up and embraced the topic of love this week, from galentine’s day to pet love to children love to the very traditional meaning behind Valentine’s Day, romantic love. With Valentine’s Day being on a Thursday this year both my partner and I had very full days and didn’t really celebrate on the day of (a frequent occurrence for holidays because my partner is in both the restaurant and wedding industries). But that doesn’t mean that we didn’t take time to express our love and remember all of the great years we’ve had together.
I know how challenging it is to keep a relationship alive and healthy, especially for a long time. I think one of the reasons that relationships don’t last is because we’re used to how fast things change and have to be purchased and aren’t as focused on things lasting forever. So to then switch to expecting relationships to last for years let alone decades, while we’re not commitment-phobes, it’s a big perspective switch.
Whether you’re interested in having a long term relationship or one that lasts as long as it lasts there are somethings you can do to help that relationship work well. I talk often about the importance of communication, of course things like having similar interests and hobbies and opinions about things help as well. The two things I want to focus on today that go hand-in-hand are awareness and attention.
Awareness and attention mean that you’ve got your senses open to your partner and to what’s going on in their life. If you’re not paying attention to them and what’s going on in their life they may someday feel that they’re not truly wanted by you or that you don’t really care about them. Being aware of what’s going on doesn’t mean you stalk their social feeds or scroll through their phones each night, it means that you take the time to look at them and listen to them, to know what’s going on in their life and what is affecting them. It means sharing the little things with them, checking in with them throughout the day, and actively building memories and sharing experiences with them.
Valentine’s Day may be over, but that doesn’t mean that the love should end. I encourage you to commit to your relationship anew each day, for as many days as you’re blessed to be together. What have you learned about relationships since last Valentine’s Day?