You’ve probably heard the saying “a house divided against itself will fall.” I believe this statement is very true and is one of the reasons that individuals, those in partnerships (aka relationships) and families struggle. We personally go through our lives experiencing different things, thinking about public impressions, things we “should” do and our own dreams and desires. All of these things pull and tug us in different directions. In relationships you’re dealing with 2 people who have their own preferences, desires, loves, dreams, hopes, challenges and fears. Yes, you would hope in a loving partnership that some of those things would line up because the two people have similar desires, loves, dreams etc. But everyone is different, so it won’t always be the case. As families we have tons of different people involved in the shuffle, with different opinions, schedules, needs and plans. It’s not easy to find a happy medium that allows the parents to be parents, the kids to be kids, the family to come together and everyone get along fantastic.
I believe that some things and some people are meant to come together for a period of time and then go their separate ways or be done. I believe there are things and people that should never have come together. I believe that some things and some people are meant to last forever. I believe that some people and things stick around only through sheer grit and a can-do spirit. Life isn’t always going to be cupcakes and chicken soup. Sometimes you’ve got to get down and dirty and really work to make things continue. And sometimes we keep working on things long after they’re broken beyond repair (the nasty and graphic phrase “beat a dead horse” applies here).
I fully believe that we should each be our own person. We should have our own interests, personalities, dreams, talents and perspectives. I don’t see a need for carbon copy people. But with that individuality comes the responsibility of respecting the individuality of others, which is something I think we sometimes forget. But the simple wisdom applies that if you want to be treated well, you should do the same to others. If you treat others like crap do you really expect they’ll treat you like your the Next Big Thing? Some of us need to work more on being our own person, but quite a few of us need to work on working together better. Working together doesn’t mean that you ignore who you are or turn yourself off, it’s about learning how to bring what you can contribute to the table and working it in with what everyone else can contribute. What will you contribute this week?