Every relationship has challenges, whether we’re talking romantic relationships (aka partnerships) or that of a relationship between parent and child or even the types of relationships between friends or between boss and coworker. One of the greatest obstacles that a person has to overcome in a relationship is the challenge of conflict and choice to respond in anger, or to just give up because you’re afraid of conflict. Today’s Dr. Wayne Dyer inspiration is a simple but powerful one:
“It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.”
It can be so tempting to just let things get worse and worse. It’s almost too easy to hang onto our anger and the feelings of frustration, rage and irritation that fill us when we’re angry. Most of us don’t have the gift of holding onto laughter. We get looked at as not taking life seriously if we’re laughing all the time. Sometimes we laugh so we don’t feel the pain or to avoid our responsibilities, but all too often we don’t laugh enough, or at the very least we’re not happy.
Many of the kids TV shows and movies, both past and present, do a good job of showing both the happy and the challenging. There’s usually an obstacle or two to overcome, but there’s a lot of fun to be had too. Somehow that’s one of the things we seem to forget as we get older: that life can be fun and isn’t just about the responsibilities (but the responsibilities can’t be forgotten either).
But back to anger: I believe too many of us let anger rule our lives. We let it get in there and it sticks. So this weekend and coming week I challenge you to take notice when your anger starts to rev up and take a step or two back instead of letting it take over. Ask for a moment, take a physical step away, or finally take action on what you’ve let stew for a long time so that you can get to truly living and enjoying life.