I don’t know about you but I get a lot of emails each day. Almost all of them I’ve signed up for in one way or another, and my preferred method of communication is typically email. So at least 15% of the time I’m excited to open some of the emails, another 55% of the time I’m opening some emails hoping they’ll have something good in them, and the last 30% I’m not opening or sorry I opened because it’s a repetitive email that I’ve read 6 times already from them or someone else or it’s another request from a political candidate asking for money. Being in business I know there’s some value to sending repeat emails because some people do skip them or miss them or something along those lines and appreciate the reminder down the road, but that’s a rare case for me.
But it got me thinking about how we raise our children, what we’re teaching to the next generation about responsibilities and listening. I think it first reflects poorly on who we are as people and the fact that we need 6 emails, calls, texts or messages to be reminded of something or to get around to doing something. I’m not suggesting I do things the minute they cross my life or my desk all the time, just sad that too many lives have gotten so busy that many need multiple reminders of things. What about needing to say things 6 times before someone else hears them? I know I see that with kids today that a parent or sibling is doing something or talking to someone and they say that person’s name several times during the conversation or while that person is clearly busy. Besides the obvious of needing to learn to wait for their turn in a conversation, there’s blame on both sides of the line for those who think it’s OK to poke someone physically or verbally 6 or more times to try to get their attention, and on the other side for someone to not ask them to wait a moment after they hear the first request.
The third part of this is about persistence. Yes, it’s good to teach persistence to the next generation, they have to learn to be persistent if they really want to achieve their goals in life and become the best they can be. Few people will tell you that they got their success efforts right on the first try or were accepted with their first request. And thanks to technology today if you’re willing to make the effort there’s a good chance you can succeed on your own doing your own thing too.
Persistence is important to teach the next generation, but almost as important if not more is the lesson of patience. There’s no denying how far hard work can get you, but sometimes, especially when dealing with other people as we frequently do, the best thing you and your kids can do is slow down and wait. It’s not a forever wait, just waiting for a few seconds or maybe even a few days. What are you teaching your kids and the next generations by your words and actions when you’re around them?