On Monday I talked about priorities. It’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about, and one of the things that I’m prioritizing even more this year is the relationship I have with my partner. We’ve been together for a bunch of years, and have had some of the best times of our lives. We’ve also gone through many challenges, all relationships do. But when the chips are down we always choose loving each other over hurting each other or going our separate ways.
One of the reasons I love him is because there’s very little judgment in our relationship, we can say the crazy stuff, talk about intimidating topics, admit needs and ask for help without fear of being laughed at or turned down or rejected straight out. I’ve always had a belief that honesty is the best policy, but not everyone is willing to hear the raw truth, sometimes because it hurts, sometimes because of fears or beliefs we have, and sometimes because if someone else admits it we’ll be forced to face it and do something about it.
Having an open relationship, one built on love and trust like my partner and I have, is something that everyone needs. We all need someone that we can be fully honest with, someone who cares enough about us to hear the crazy thoughts we have, is willing to dream dreams with us and will really listen when we talk. Take time this weekend to thank that person in your life, and if you don’t have that special someone there’s no time like today to start being more honest and open with yourself and others.
“We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.” Thomas Moore