We’re a little under two weeks away from the celebration of Christmas and we’re a few days from Hanukkah. This month is so full of celebrations and gifting, something I’m so thankful for because it’s a good reminder that we’re not alone in this world and how important it is show our appreciation and love to those in our lives. If you’ve been thinking about whether or not to fight the crowds and get one last gift for someone or to skip it, I’d encourage you to go for it. Don’t let Scrooge win this year.
Let’s talk about one of the best gifts you can give yourself or anyone this year, or at any time: the gift of forgiveness. Forgiveness isn’t something trivial that we throw around like we do the word love, in fact we’re pretty stingy with it, mostly because we’ve been hurt so many times, often by the same person, and it feels like it might be a waste of time to forgive them or anyone. So don’t feel bad if you’ve struggled to forgive before.
But what I’ve learned over the years is that it never pays to hold a grudge. Often it just becomes a distraction or sticking point that you can’t get over. You think about it over and over again, stopping you from moving forward and onward with your life. They may be moving forward in their life, whether you’ve forgiven them or not (and may not care if you have or haven’t forgiven them), while you’re still in the past withholding forgiveness.
Which means that usually the first person that needs forgiving is you. We’re harder on ourselves than on anyone else and we’re our biggest critic too. If you really want to be free to be all you can be this coming year, it starts with learning to forgive yourself, because without the forgiveness moving on to bigger and better things won’t be easy, if it’s even possible.
So go ahead and work on forgiving yourself or someone else this holiday season; it won’t be an easy gift but it will be the best one you’ve ever given.