The other day I was reminded of the importance of supporting your partner. I know that sounds really simple, and in some ways it is that simple, but there’s also more to it. A relationship is filled with opportunities for personal growth and learning, both who you are as a person and how you work with others. Relationships also come with challenges to face and they can go through very rocky patches. Even with the best matches, there will still be things that you have to work through, that will frustrate you about the other person and you’ll have to learn compromise. The most successful relationships are with people who learn how to give and take, support each other, communicate, and work together.
But beyond that what I was thinking about this week was about believing in your partner. To believe means to “to have confidence in the truth, or the reliability of something or someone,” “to have confidence in the assertions of (a person),” “to have a conviction that (a person or thing) is, has been, or will be engaged in a given action or involved in a given situation.” Believing in your partner and them in you and both of you in your relationship is a level deeper and beyond just supporting each other, it’s a level of commitment, confidence and conviction that doesn’t exist in all relationships.
What do you believe? Do you believe in your relationship? Do you really believe in your partner? Do you believe in what they bring to your relationship? Do you believe in and support their dreams? Do they believe in you and the relationship as you do? If you believe but are feeling a little tired or frustrated, that’s one thing. It’s another thing if you’re just counting time and sticking it out and you don’t believe in them and the relationship or they in you and the relationship. If that’s the case and you want the relationship to be one you believe in, then it’s time to have a serious conversation about where the relationship is going with your partner. If you aren’t at the place that you need a relationship and partner you believe in, then just enjoy what you’ve got until it’s time to move on. Are you in a relationship you believe in?